They Say a Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins With the First Step
This can never be any truer when it comes to online dating. You have taken your time to browse through personal ads and have finally shortlisted a number of profiles that pique your interests. The next step is to drop that person a mail – initiating that first contact with the other person in the hopes of a fruitful relationship.
Make a Good First Impression
The first impression really matters, and in online dating, it is that first email that you send that will determine whether you will get a response or not. That first email that you send can say a lot about your intelligence, personality, intensions, and much, much more.
How then do you enhance your odds of getting a response from that first email that you send? First and foremost, you have to be familiar with what such ‘probing’ emails contain. Alas, many people who initiate first contact rarely take the time to write a well-thought out email. As a result, their efforts come across as hurried and thinly-veiled propositions. As such, whatever you can do to differentiate your mail from that of a million competitors will go a very long way in determining your success rate with that first email. Read through the mail before hitting ‘send’. If you want your target to take you seriously, you have to take yourself seriously first.
Most People Response To Those Who Listen
Beyond the face value of the email, what it is contained in that email will ultimately determine your success rate in getting a response? Remember that that person probably gets millions of such emails everyday hence you have to stand out of the crowd. You should write a very sincere mail because most people tend to respond to those who carefully listens and takes the effort and time to understand their passions and interests. Most probably your target has some personal ad online; ensure you go through every detail of the profile before submitting your email for consideration. This way, at least you will be making reference to something on the content of your email.
Make Your Letter As Personal As Possible
Last but not least, you have to take the time of your life to clear some of the common uncertainty out of the entire process. Remember that the recipient of your email is being contacted by a stranger, thus, anything that you can do to make your letter as personal as possible will go a long way in terms of effectiveness. For starters, you should describe whatever it is that you enjoy doing, your likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. If there are any interests that you and your recipient share, you should put more emphasis on it.
If you have a personal ad of yourself, you can even include a link to it so that the other party can get some idea of what type of person you are. It is advisable to avoid sending pictures in your first email (if at all you haven’t posted it on your personal ad of course) as the move may come across a bit audacious. However, you should make it clear that you aren’t averse to forwarding one over at the recipient’s convenience.